I often find with allot of the women I work with don't truly get what they desire in bed.
Do we love to have sex, well of course YES!.
But most of us has conformed to what our partners truly desire, even when the attention is on us.
Especially if it has been sometime,
much like the shiny new car you love and find the new features that make you purrr when you get inside.
But as time goes on you become a little less thrilled with this car and some the once amazing assets of the car you now found kind of annoying lol.
IM SORRY IM JUST HONEST!
Not to say that we don't love the car it, just means that maybe we can find a new love and appreciation for the old features and discover some of the new ones we were unaware of.
Faking pleasure is a suppression of your feelings, if you don't feel truly satisfied and are just going through the motions, a little part of us remains disconnected and it can turn into resentment against our beloved partner.
SO HOW DO I ASK ?
First thing first.
Start a sexy journal, this will be your journal to write down some of your sexual experiences with your partner or yourself.
In here you want to keep a deeper understanding of your personal sexual journey. Prompting questions like
" What really turns me on?
- Break it down
- " What does it feel like ?"
- Did any memeories or emotions come up?
- When I touch myself I feel
- When my partner touches me I feel
- "What turns me on?"
- "I like it when ______ happens"
- "It drives me wild when this part of my body gets stimulation"
- " I feel disconnected during when this happens"
- " I feel safe in my body when sex happens this way"
" I feel cared for and honred when ______ happens"